Letting People In


People don't reach out for life coaching or business coaching, or help in general, because everything is wonderful.  They reach out because... well... sometimes life blows… hard.

And I've noticed a bit of a pattern; up until now, letting people in to my struggles was easy... once I'm past them.  I usually power through alone, or with the support of a very few, but very amazing (and likely very exhausted), people and then once I've crossed the finish line and feel victorious, then I'm like "Hey, so I had this major thing happen but it's all good now and here's why".  It's still scary.  Still makes me feel vulnerable (a word I hesitate to use because it seems almost a catch phrase lately).  But it isn’t really true vulnerability because I know how that chapter ends... I am the victor!

Letting people in before the victory?  Making people aware of my struggle, as I'm struggling?  Not knowing if I'll be the victor or not?  That is a whole new ball game (don't worry, I'm not going to launch into more metaphors about balls).  And I’m realizing it's not one that I like very much.

Growth doesn't come from comfort.  And if you don't get the lesson on the first go... it comes back again (and again and again), until you learn what you need.  And I'm not sure what iteration of this lesson I'm on, but it is now presenting itself in such a way that choice has been, pretty much, removed.

I can't do this alone this time.  So I'm letting y'all in on my struggle.  I launched this business because of my desire to help others, and to truly be able to do that, I have to be brave enough to reach out to others for the same.  

So welcome to my struggle.  I don't know what's going to happen.  But it looks like you’re coming along for the ride. I wholly and fully plan on being the victor and that is firmly where my focus is.  But this time, I’m extending my village as I head towards the finish line. 

I’m not sure why I’m sharing this. This post hasn’t taken the direction I thought it would. I feel like blogging is therapy. It helps me to sort out how I’m feeling about things and writing tends to help me gain clarity pretty quickly. I guess what I’m wanting to say is, that there are people out there that want to help you. There are people out there who want to see you succeed and flourish (I know this because I’m one of them). But you won’t ever know just how many of us there are, until you let us in. I know it’s scary… but still… ask…